Female journalist Norah Vincent disguised herself as a man to investigate sex roles, going to all-male activities like bowling and strip clubs and men-only therapy groups, and found the experience extremely illuminating. Read the entire article here. Here’s a quote from the article:
Vincent even dabbled in the art of picking up women and agreed to wear a hidden camera for “20/20” during her exploits.
She was quickly reminded that in this arena, it’s women who have the power, she said.
“In fact, we sit there and we just with one word, ‘no,’ will crush someone,” she said. “We don’t have to do the part where you cross the room and you go up to a stranger that you’ve never met in the middle of a room full of people and say the first words. And those first words are so hard to say without sounding like a cheeseball or sounding like a jerk.”
Vincent encountered some pretty cold shoulders in her attempts at the bar, but she did manage to go on about 30 dates with women as “Ned,” mostly arranging them on the Internet.
Vincent said the dates were rarely fun and that the pressure of “Ned” having to prove himself was grueling. She was surprised that many women had no interest in a soft, vulnerable man.
“My prejudice was that the ideal man is a woman in a man’s body. And I learned, no, that’s really not. There are a lot of women out there who really want a manly man, and they want his stoicism,” she said.